I recently read an article titled 10 habits of the happily married (Fairlady February 2015) where couples were advised what it takes to make a marriage work and were given daily challenges. Some of these included speaking up; laughing together; being attentive; being kind; and appreciating. The daily challenge for the last one was to make a point of thanking your partner for something they did today (quoted). Every weekday morning Dave makes me coffee and brings me my mug in bed, and I thank him. Not because it is a challenge, but because I am genuinely grateful for the coffee. We always thank each other for doing what is considered part of our chores. Dave thanks me for dinner, even if he helps to make it. I think marriages work because people intrinsically include these habits, without having to be challenged to do so. And I think a marriage will not work if you genuinely don’t want to be kind and considerate towards your partner. I am always attentive in my relationships no matter who they are with. Something else that works really well for me is being attentive to recipes I am testing. In Giorgio Locatelli’s recipe book, Made In Sicily he gives a recipe for pistachio paste where he roasts the pistachios first. In my photograph you will see the roasted pistachio paste and the paste I made without roasting the pistachios. I much prefer the colour of the paste when the pistachios are not roasted, but I will leave that up to you.
Which one do you think you would prefer, and do you say thank you to your partner?
- 200 g pistachios
- Place the pistachios into a food processor
- Blitz on a high speed until a paste forms