This is my recipe for Prawns With Oak Smoked Red Bell Pepper.
Sometimes, not telling the truth can be because you do not want to hurt someone. But, in my mind that is considered lying by omission. It is not really a case of “what you know won’t hurt you” as you always end up getting hurt, no matter what. Most recently I have had to keep the truth from a friend. This is not the same as keeping a secret. Keeping the truth means not telling your friend something you know. And, this is even harder when she asks you directly. I have only once been in this position before now. A lifetime ago, it seems, a friend of mine was having an affair. One day his wife, who was also a friend, asked me outright “is Andy having an affair”. I thought the telephone was not the right ‘place’ to answer the question and so I fobbed off the situation and instead asked her something else – and tried to make arrangements to see her. This was on a Friday, she had just returned from hospital and her husband was not really concerned about her and this is what sparked the little bit of self doubt. On the Monday she watched South Africa play cricket and lo and behold, in the crowds was her husband, with his girlfriend. On the Tuesday we had a long chat on the phone – we were having an awards dinner that night and their son was getting a trophy. We spoke about mundane things – like what we were going to wear. They did not arrive for the dinner and I made phone call after phone call to see what had gone wrong. Little did I know that she had committed suicide. After all my studying and working, I had missed all the signs and I was the last person to speak to her. I never got to answer her question, and I will never know if the truth might have changed things. She was an amazing mom. Her son was quite the fussy eater and so she decided with her daughter that she would eat whatever was put on the table. So, when we went for dinner, there sat the four year old daughter, eating prawns as if they were a normal part of her diet and not something ugly to be left alone.

Smoked Bell Pepper Prawns
Ingredients
- 15 mls olive oil
- 15 g butter
- 2 cloves garlic, chopped
- 6 prawns
- salt and freshly ground black pepper to season
- ½ lemon, juice only
- 5 mls oak smoked red bell pepper
Method
- heat the oil and the butter in a frying pan
- add the garlic and sauté until soft without browning them
- add the prawns and season
- add the lemon juice and the smoked red pepper
- toss well in the sauce to make sure they are nicely coated and evenly cooked
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What a sad, sad story. I hope Andy rots in hell.
Is that sole with the prawns?
Friday greets to Dave.
xxx
yes it was sole! Friday greets back xxx
Goodness – what a moving story.
thanks Sally! Some days there are just words that need sharing 🙂
This must have been very difficult for you, Tandy! It is sometimes so difficult to know something that you are not suppose to know. I tend to agree with Cindy abour Andy!
Where did you get the oak smoked pepper? It sounds like a wonderful dish!
Enjoy the weekend!
I got the oak smoked bell pepper at a deli in Stellenbosch – but I am not sure if they still stock it!
So sad. I would have told my friend and stand by her, if the hubby hates afterwards, I wouldn’t care much. She had to know so that she can protect herself from the possible diseases the man can bring. Sad though her story ended that bad.
I think that regardless what happened, the story would have ended the same way 🙁
Very sad and a tough call for you – I honestly don´t know what I would have done, fortunately have not been in this position. Lovely to remember her with a recipe! My Fish Man came by this morning and I bought a kilo of prawns from him so this could be what we make…
lucky you! I could devour those for a meal with nothing else but garlic butter 🙂
What a sad, sad story….. I’m not sure what I’d do in a situation like that. It’s so sad she didn’t see enough value in her life to move on and go on living.
The prawns looks amazing!
Sometimes Bexx, people cannot see that their future can be better!
Tandy, what a sad tragedy!
Love the recipe for the prawns.
🙂 Mandy
it was very tragic!
How sad. 🙁 sweet tribute recipe.
how sad. people put so much of themselves into relatiomships that it is the end of their word if it fails. how hard it is to discover something like this. but then how could you know?
some people’s whole lives come to a stand still when their partners leave – too awful!
Oh Tandy. I’m so sorry – that must have been such a hard thing for you to go through… x
thanks Celia, it was not easy xxx
Such a sad story…we all pray never to be faced with a loss like that. A lovely way to remember your friend with the prawn recipe.
Thanks Karen 🙂